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Until, rumors started to fly. It first came from my cousins. They said that they heard my husband had gotten someone pregnant in PH before coming to Lagos.
Thereafter, we also heard he is married to someone in UK. It seemed like bad people trying to ruin our happiness because I asked my husband and he denied everything. And I believed him. But barely a year into the marriage, the truth came crashing on me.
His UK wife called me and told me they were legally married. That she found out he was cheating on her with PH girls so she went to UK to cool her head.That they have 2 sons. She showed me pictures. That my husband is mentally unstable. That he lies a lot and even with me,he has been talking to her about reconciling with her for their son’s sake.
And yes,it turns out he got at least 3 ladies pregnant in PH. I cannot explain everything, It will take so much time. All these revelations happened in one year of marriage. I am only trying to sum it up. Now I understood why he wanted a small wedding.
His family knew about their son’s deceit and kept quiet. I was so broken and depressed that I contemplated su!c!d3 several times. My family tried to support me but I went through the most humiliating divorce of my life. All my ex husband could say was sorry. I felt like killing him.
Our divorce was finalized in the second year and since then,my life has never been the same. I suffer from depression now and again. I have serious trust issues. I do not know if I will ever be able to find love. I could not come out of my house for almost 7 months.
I find it hard to go to church now cos I feel betrayed after getting a good church man to marry only to have been publicly humiliated. I kept my v!rg!n!+y for 28 years, only to loose it to a cheating husband
All my life, I refused to date men whom I felt were not serious about me. How did I not see this coming? How did I not sense this would happen to me…I feel like I failed myself and maybe God failed me too.
I do not know how to move forward in my life. My family is worried about me. I am worried about me. What should I do? I yearn for love yet I am scared to even think I could ever fall in love. They say time heals but I feel like I am forever damaged goods. Is there any hope for me?
But then, I met this man again..
