Mrs Carol Oluwafunmilola Akintunji is the inseparable companion of Dr. Akinsefunmi Akintunji, fondly called Teddy by close friends. Mrs Akintunji, also affectionately called Anty Caro by admirers is the energetic, indefatigable, amiable, and caring woman who has partnered with her husband to build a legacy that is talked about by all and sundry. In this interview with Ademola Akinbola, Publisher of The Podium International Magazine, she holds nothing back as she shares the success story that her life and that of her husband have become. At 70, Mrs. Akintunji is still very sharp, captivating, and insightful. Enjoy …
On behalf of the Management of Ile-Oluji Times and The Podium International Magazine, we rejoice with you on your 70th birthday. As customary with us, we celebrate achievers, patriots, icons, those who have touched lives, and those who have made an impact, within and outside the community. We want to hear your success story, we want people to learn from your life, and we want people to know that in 70 years, much water has passed under the bridge. First of all, let’s ask you, how do you feel getting to this age?
Well, I feel good and thankful to God, because whatever I have achieved could only have been by His grace. It has not been by my power and not by my smartness or intelligence. So, I give God all the glory.
Halleluiah. Did you have any fear or concern that this time would not come? Some people are so fearful, maybe one or two instances or an incident that happened.
Well, going by the antecedents in my mother’s family, attaining seventy is a rare occurrence. So, I always had that at the back of my mind, but because of my belief and faith in God, I know that if I ask him to remove whatever jinx that might have been causing that premature death in the family, he would hearken unto me, and that’s what He has done by His grace and mercies. Once you know that there’s something strange or untoward in your family, you must be proactive in dealing with it.
It’s just like when they say hypertension runs in a family, and you know the antidote but you refuse to apply it, then it would happen to you. But, there are some people from certain families with some negative antecedents who escape such. That has been my belief that even if my aunties, my uncles, and even my mother had died before seventy, I would not be a part of it. So, the conviction that there is a supreme being who answers prayers and changes whatever we don’t want gives me the confidence that I would make it.
Great. So, tell us about your birth. When were you born? Where were you born? Tell us about your growing up, about your parents.
My father is an Ile-Oluji man. He left Ile-Oluji for Ondo to learn Goldsmithery. He was taken there by his uncle, Archdeacon David Okunfulure. While there, he married an Ile-Oluji woman who could not conceive on time. He met my mother in Ondo and they got married. So, we were born in Ondo, my elder sister, Mrs. Akintoye and I am the second in the family. Later on, my father married another woman and we had siblings – Oluwole Akinyosoye is one of them. His mother is the eldest wife. She couldn’t conceive, she conceived actually when they got married but that would have been the eldest of us all but he died. After that, she had difficulty conceiving again until she had Oluwole in 1960. We all grew up in Ondo because my father was there. It was when he was old that he retired to Ile-Oluji and took to farming.
So, I was born in 1953, and we all lived together with our father’s wives. But our mother left at a point and left us with our father. We went with her initially but later, we found our way back to our father’s house, and that was where we grew up. When we were about to go to secondary school. I was admitted into Gboluji Grammar School, Ile-Oluji where I wrote my School Cert and HSC examinations. After my HSC, I taught at St. Louis School for a year, and also at Independence Grammar School for another year. In 1974, I got admitted into the University of Lagos, where I did a B.Sc. Education. I also got admission into the University of Nigeria, Nsukka to read Home Economics. But, because my boyfriend then was in Lagos, at the Medical School, I opted for UNILAG and we graduated at the same time in 1977, and we got married on the 18th of March, 1978 at Ile-Oluji. The same year, we had our first child, who was a girl. Two years later, we had another child, a girl too, but along the line, we lost the two of them. To the glory of God, we were able to have three other children.
How did you meet your husband?
He was my senior in school. While he was in Form Five in 1969, I was in Form Four. That was when we started dating.
How did he make the first move? Did he send someone or did he write a letter?
He is a friend of my cousin, Kole Akinyele. Kole is my first cousin. Each time I was in Ile-Oluji, I lived with his mother, and most times, I was in Ile-Oluji anyway, so I would say I grew up there with Kole’s mother. My husband was very close to Kole, so each time he came around, and…
So, at a point, he started using Uncle Kole as an avenue to see you?
(laughs), yes but how it all started, I can’t recollect
When you met him, what was the attraction? Who made the first move? You know in those days, it was letter writing or sending emissaries, alarena and all that. How did it start?
Laughs…. well, you know my husband, he is a very clean man, from his secondary school days, neatly dressed, smartly dressed …
Even up till now, he has a commendable sartorial taste
Yes. I think every girl then was admiring him, and because of his closeness to my cousin, I would say maybe that was what brought us closer. Maybe if not that he was my cousin’s friend, we might not have gotten so close. But who started? I don’t even know (laughs) you know he was coming to the house, we were eyeing each other, little by little. It was mutual.
So, what has sustained the marriage? What are the principles that people can learn from? I mean, there’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to marriage. Each marriage presents and has its peculiarities, what are the challenges you’ve had and how did you overcome them?
When you talk of marital challenges, I can’t remember any except for those children, because my husband is such a disciplined man. Going after women is not his style of life. He is a very considerate person, even when you make mistakes, he doesn’t dwell on your mistakes, and he’s quick to apologize when he feels he has offended you, and I learned that from him. Naturally, I can be stubborn, but my husband is on the soft side and I learned that marriage is a game of give and take. So, when I feel offended by him, I look at it, this man when I offend him, he forgives me easily, so I forgive him. Even when I want to carry the quarrel overnight, he won’t allow it (laugh). He would say, Iyawo o to now, let us forget it (laughs). So over time, I learned all of these.
He can give anything when it comes to his family, it’s because of his family that he didn’t go for his post-graduate degree programme. He couldn’t imagine himself leaving his family to say he was going abroad or whatever for a course, and God has been so good that he is as successful as most of his mates who went for postgraduate. We thank God for that and he’s always there with us.
I can attest to his generous and kind-hearted nature. He probably can’t remember this, but when I was getting married in 1996, he gladly obliged me and my wife the use his Mercedes Benz car. Earlier in 1994 when we were starting the Who is Who in Ile-Oluji project, Dr. Akintunji was the first person we met in Ile-Oluji one Sunday evening. I was with Oye Adekeye. He encouraged us, prayed for the project’s success, and gave us N500 (a lot of money at that time). He was the first person we met, if he had not encouraged us, that project would have died. It meant a lot to us and that kindled our confidence that look, this project is doable. I mentioned these two instances to buttress what you said about his kind nature.
Thank you for that. I am sure a lot of other people will have similar things to say about him.
I must say that you are a role model couple …
Thank you
We (your younger ones and admirers) gossip about you a lot in a positive way. We admire you a lot, you are always together and I know that it has not been smooth all along, tell us about your marital experience.
Yes. The biggest challenge we had was the issue of the two children that we lost. I would say that the challenge bonded us more. It was a problem that was enough to separate us or terminate the marriage, but instead, we became closer. If you weren’t close to us, if you didn’t know us closely, you wouldn’t even know that we had a problem. Once we were outside the house, we left the problem at home. Nobody knew except we tell you, but those who were close to us, and were coming to our house knew the problem we were going through. It surprised a lot of people that despite this type of problem, we were so bonded in love that some were even insinuating that there was something we both agreed to use the children for. You can imagine that? But we had faith in God, we kept threading on.
When we lost the two children, not at the same time, but at different times, we waited on God for what He would do because if God gave you two children, would you say God had not been kind or gracious to you? And if thereafter, nothing happened again, you wouldn’t blame God. But God knew what happened, He saw everything, and he knew this even before we were born, that it was going to happen and he had a plan for us. So, I got pregnant with my third child who happened to be a boy, while the two children were still living, but we were grappling with the problem, of carrying them from one place to the other. There was nowhere we didn’t go to. If I heard that there was a crusade somewhere, I would be there. Go to this, go to that, people were just giving all sorts of advice. At a point, you know as a man, you get fed up but as a mother, I said I wasn’t going to give up, and that led to my resignation from the Lagos State Teaching Service.
I started my teaching career with my HSC, and when I went to the University, after the Youth service, I applied to Federal Government College, Ijanikin. I was posted to Ijanikin, I was there for a year, and then for reason of accommodation, we moved to Agege. Going from Agege to Ijanikin was going to be too stressful, so I had to transfer my service to Lagos State. I started at Government College, Ipaja, where we now have the NYSC Orientation Camp. When we moved to Maryland, it was easy then, crossing from one place to the other, not now, where everywhere is full. So, I moved to Victory High School, Ikeja, which is closer to Maryland.
It was when I was in Maryland that these children’s problems started and I felt I couldn’t cope. I was always at the mercy of house help, so I had to resign to fully focus on caring for the children. When we lost the first one, I felt a bit of relief. That was in 1985, that we lost the first one, and by 1987, we lost the second one. But before then, I had to, because I felt I shouldn’t just sit at home doing nothing, that’s when I conceived the idea of Carol School, and that was how I started the school in 1985. From a rented apartment, I think it was a three-bedroom with a big compound, and within one year, we had grown in leap and bounds and I had to move to a bigger rented apartment. Within a short time, I had some annexes, till we were happy to get some land at the permanent site.
I ran the school for about 37 years and after that, I felt, I should give it up. All my children are all gainfully employed overseas and education management is not their turf. I have an Accountant, an Engineer, and a construction specialist. What do they know about managing a school? So, I felt it would be a sheer waste of investment if I held on to it. Also, I had to travel each time my children gave birth. Considering these two factors, I just felt that it wasn’t worth it anymore. I should sell and if I need to invest in something that would not warrant me being there, yes, so that is where we are now.
So, which words best describe your personality?
Like my husband, I am very considerate too and honestly is my watchword. I cannot relate to somebody who is not honest, even up to house-help. If I have anything to do with you that involves money, I would rather put my own rather than short-change you and that has been my husband’s style too. That is why we gel. We don’t cheat and when people cheat me, I hit the roof, my husband knows me for that. My father was a very honest man who would not appropriate other people’s money or property. So, I would say, my other siblings too and I, I think we took that from our father. As a Boss, my workers know that I don’t tolerate indolence, but once you do your work, there are two sides to me when it comes to doing my business. Some may see me as a perfectionist who wants everything to be in place. Others may see me as somebody easy to work with. Once you are honest and hardworking, I relate with you as my child, or my sister or brother.
One thing about me is that I don’t allow the labourers’ sweat to dry before I pay their wages. In the 37 years that I ran the school, I never owed anybody, I never owed salaries. Even if it got to a point that there was no money, I would rather go to the bank for an overdraft or my husband would look for money for me. When things got difficult to the point that paying salaries was difficult, we ensured that we paid salaries. If you meet any of my staff today, they would tell you they gave that to me, I never owed anybody salaries. When I decided to give up the school, I ensured that I paid every worker six months’ salary because I knew that sending them into the unemployment market, may take time for them to get a job. I made sure that nobody could speak evil of me and anybody that does that would be offending God. People who lived with me can attest to it. I am not the type that would hoard food that people should not eat, I enjoy people coming to my house to eat, I enjoy that a lot, and the more I give, the more the Lord returns unto me. So, my husband, the more we give out, the more we get. Because we believe in the bible scripture, that givers never lack, yes, and when you give, then more shall be given unto you, and we have proven that scripture that it is true.
So, the new owner is not continuing with the school?
They are continuing under a different name. He took some of them over, some of them he let go.
Wonderful. Looking back, what are those unforgettable moments of your life? You told us a little about the low points, what about the high points? What are the moments that you would say wow, I will never forget this? Positive moments, apart from the day you were, of course, your wedding day was good but growing up also, up till now.
While I was growing up, as somebody who didn’t live with her mother, you know when you are away from your mother, there is no hiding place for you, and you are made to do all chores that you cannot refuse. If maybe my mother was there, it would have been a different story and that might not have helped us, me and my sister. But today, because of that, we were made to do everything; go to the farm, work on the farm, and come back home, do all the chores in the house. Till today, nothing is difficult, no chore is difficult for me to do, even as old as I am, and no house-help can hold me to ransom, because I can do virtually everything, and my sister too.
I think, in growing up, my highest point of joy was when I got married. After that, my husband has also been a source of joy. For our wedding, we had planned and budgeted, but there was a disappointment somewhere and our budget fell short of Five Hundred Naira. My husband met his cousin, Mr. Jide Akinwotu, and he gave us the N500. Our wedding was grand like that of the children of rich parents. Thanks to my husband who was working and making good money. I think I was doing my Youth Service then.
Glory to God. What does success mean to you? What are your success principles?
Well, it is not only when you have so much money that you are said to be successful. How many lives have you touched? How many people can talk about you and how you have shaped their lives or you have positively touched their lives? This is what you were saying about my husband that he has even forgotten about, that when you wanted to start Who’s Who in Ile-Oluji, he encouraged you and gave you money. That is what success means, but when you have so much and you cannot even bring out one person, that oh, I have touched this life, you have not been successful, you can’t call that success.
My success principles are as follows:
- Number one, you must be honest, because if you are not honest, whatever you amass will scatter because it’s God’s principles
- Everything you do, you must be plain and truthful
- Don’t appropriate what belongs to others and don’t benefit from their sweat.
- When you engage people to work for you, don’t short change them of their wages.
- You must work hard. If you are lazy, the bible is even clear about it, a lazy man will not eat.
When I started Carol School, I woke up at 5 am to join the bus so that the driver could go around the houses of the children. Until the school had a solid footing and I could employ nannies on the bus to follow them. I did that for almost a year or so, but if I was a lazy person, that might not have been easy.
- To be successful, you must learn to give because if you keep everything to yourself, there’s no glory in that.
- Then you must fear God in all of the things you do because if you fear God, you won’t cheat others. If you fear God, you will not malign others just to gain some advantage. Then there are some Bosses, when they owe their workers, when it’s time to pay, they look for one excuse or the other, that you have done this, you have done that, you don’t do that. Because those who think there is no God, are making a mistake, there is God, and a just God for that matter.
I think you have touched on most of the major success principles. So, at 70, what are your plans? Looking to the future? How are you going to spend your retirement? As it is you’re retired but not tired. What are your plans for the next 5, 10, 15 and 20 years? What do you intend to be involved in?
My husband has said it. We want to travel the world, then we want to bond with our grandchildren. So, that is what we want to spend the rest of our lives doing and helping as many as we can. Because up till now, we help people when they come, when they are in genuine need, not frivolous demands, we still do that. We have been able to train some in school, yes, and up till now, we are still training in the university. And then, reach out to our community, reach out to the church of God but no pastor can force us or extort money from us. We do what we feel God wants us to do because churches where they say, you don’t pay your tithe, things would be difficult for you, we don’t buy all of those. We can read the bible and we understand the bible, nobody can manipulate us.
What’s your philosophy of life? How do you view life?
Well, my philosophy in life is to do unto others as you want them to do unto you. Like I told you earlier if you cheat me, I will hit the roof and you will see the other side of me. So, if you believe that if they do this to you, you will not like it, then don’t do it to others. Don’t just sit down and concoct evil plans or lies against your fellow human being, because if they do it to you, you would not like it. Once you know the Ten Commandments of God, my husband and, I hold the Ten Commandments real tight, once you can achieve these Ten Commandments, honestly, you don’t need to die in church, even if you don’t go to church, once you can attain those Ten Commandments, you are home and dry.
These are the things that have been guiding our lives. We don’t tell lies against people, we don’t cheat people, we respect our elders; we don’t covet no matter what you have. I may like what you are doing and I might want to emulate you, not that I’m envious. When we first started as husband and wife, if we went out to our friend’s homes, and I saw beautiful things in their homes, the next thing is, I would want to put it in my house too, because I love it and I want mine, and that is how we gradually started to build up our own space too.
Tell us about your siblings. I know you’ve mentioned them. Tell us their names, where they are, and what they are doing.
For my father, my mother had three of us; my older sister, myself, and a younger sibling, Arin Akinyosoye, who was Akinlosotu before she passed on. My sister is married to Chief Andy Akintoye, the Orunto of Ondo Kingdom. My father’s other wives, the eldest had Oluwole Akinyosoye (who retired as a senior management staff without blemish from the NNPC); Adesola Akinyosoye (of blessed memory), and Toyin, who works at PHCN. Then the other wife had Taiye Akinyosoye who was assassinated in Akure. He worked at FUTA, then at Rufus Giwa Polytechnic Library, Owo. Another wife had four, maybe you know Dr. Olawamide, and the wife, is my sibling. Then Adekunle Akinyosoye. There is also Harry who has two other younger sisters. So, my father had four wives. Oluwole’s mother was the eldest, followed by my mother, followed by Olawamide’s mother, and then Taiye’s mother.
One major issue that ladies these days find difficult to handle is In-laws. How have you been able to successfully manage your in-laws, and relate with them? What are the things young ladies in marriage can learn from you?
If the new brides have it at the back of their minds that in-laws are around for a short time, they are not coming to live with you forever, then, they will learn to stomach their excesses at times. Some in-laws have some excesses, but once you look at that these are for a short time, they will go, and you won’t overreact to the point of hurting your marriage. Your in-laws, learn to be kind to them, learn to give whatever you can to them because some wives find it difficult to give to their in-laws. Why? Allow your husband to do whatever he wants to do for his people. What he wants to do for his people will not disturb what he wants to do for you. Rather, if you encourage him to do for his people, that strengthens his love for you. But when your husband wants to give and you say, why now? Why should you? We have our own needs, blah blah…No, because whatever you give today, that is not going to take anything out of what you are going to become. If people think that way, there will be less of In-law/ wife scruples.
Some wives, when their in-laws come, even when they are cooking, make sure that their in-law doesn’t eat, they won’t serve the food on the table until the in-law leaves. Why? Even if you are eating at the table and you never knew this in-law was coming, you can stand up. I will stand up for the in-laws to eat. One thing about me, when I cook, I overcook because I have it at the back of my mind that what if we are eating and somebody is coming in? So, if nobody comes in, we put it in the fridge or freezer. But some people would rather throw the excess away than give it to their in-laws to eat.
Mothers-in-law often pray that they should leave children behind. So, once you know that Mama may be difficult, but she’s not going to live forever, you learn to cope. I have male and female children. I don’t want any woman to put a wedge between me and my son. I also don’t encourage my daughter to maltreat her mother-in-law. When my mother-in-law was alive, she would sometimes prove difficult but I understood her
Dr Akintuji interjects: They got along very well, and she was forever proud of her.
I knew Mama was not going to live forever and if I had obstructed her son from giving unto her what she deserved, that guilty conscience would have been with me till today. Whenever my husband gave and it was not enough, I would be the one to say, No, this is not enough, please add some more. Even relations, either cousin; when he wants to give and I feel this amount is not enough, this one is not enough, please and that is why my husband’s relations, they love me, all of them because I ensured
Dr Akintunji: You extended love to them
Awesome. You have worked with young people for over 37 years. What advice will you give parents? Parenting is very tough these days, and I belong to the school of thought that believes that our parents did a better job than we are doing. Although circumstances are different, because right now, parents have technology to contend with, it’s a big problem. What are your tips for parents on how to successfully bring up their children?
The first tip is that you must always be there for the children. I know that the exigencies of time, career, or business pressure might create some impediments but then, these children are number one. If at some point, I could resign from my job because of my children, I don’t know why any other woman should not be able to do the same.
I am sorry to interrupt you, just to buttress what you’ve said. When my wife was pregnant with our last child, she got a very good job, a job that she had been praying and pitching for. However, the pregnancy was now beginning to be a problem, putting too much stress on her, coupled with the demands of the new job. She had to resign so that she could save the unborn baby.
Focus is key, because these days, children are left on their own for too long. When I was raising my children, once they were back from school, you wouldn’t find me outside the house, until their father came back. He would meet us all in the house. I would ensure that I am there when their lesson teacher comes around and make sure that they do their homework. My policy is that when it is time to play, you can play but when it is time to do your homework, you must do your homework and study.
All our children attended Olashore International School, Iloko Ijesha, Osun State. , My husband and I visited the three of them 144 times while they were there. How did it get to 144 times? When you take them to school, you go, after two three weeks, you go back for their visiting, after another three weeks, you go back for their mid-term, bring them home, take them back, then when they get back, another visiting, then another three weeks holiday. That is about six times in a term. The three of them spent, I think 8 years altogether. Both of us would ensure that we were present, going back and forth with them. Ilesha is quite some distance from Lagos. Some would say, ok driver, take the children, no o, both of us. If my husband was not available, I would be there.
So, we were always there for them, and very well bonded with them. When they are at home on holidays, we allow them to be themselves, because when they are at school, they work their hearts out, especially the youngest, Folami. When he’s home, he can watch movies from morning till the following night. We allow them to be who they are, we don’t hassle their lives, give them that freedom, when they want to go out with their friends when they are on holiday, we won’t ask them not to go but we have to set the rules, by 7’o clock, you must be back in the house.
Then, you were asking about my high moments. My husband was eventually promoted after years of being denied due to office politics and bureaucracy. There was a time when a Minister came and said they should include his name to become a General Manager. They grudgingly put his name and somebody from the ministry informed him that his name had been included. Lo and behold, when the list came out, his name had been removed. We kept praying and I told God that anyone that is blocking this man from being promoted should be disgraced. Do you know what happened? A Hausa man who had retired from somewhere in the North and was brought in as the Director of Admin was the stumbling block. When God was going to deal with him, the Obasanjo government asked all senior civil servants to submit their certificates for verification. The man only had a Diploma in Arabic Studies, yet he became a Permanent Secretary. Eventually, he was asked to resign. This was in the midst of the Salisu Buhari Toronto issue. Eventually, my husband got his long overdue and well-deserved promotion.
Then there was another one, their MD, the MD that came after the one when my husband was promoted. They call him Alhaji Baba. He didn’t like the idea that my husband was promoted to General Manager, so they wanted to stagnate him there permanently. It was through divine intervention and the assistance of one Permanent Secretary from Ekiti State introduced to him by Prof. Bola Akinterinwa during the tenure of Dr Olusegun Agagu as the Minister of Aviation. He was the one that facilitated his being promoted to GM.
After six months, the man and Agagu asked my husband to submit a blueprint for the establishment of the Directorate for Medical Services, because the terminal position for the Head of the Department is General Manager. That was how my husband wrote the blueprint, and exactly six months after his promotion to GM, he became the Director of Medical Services. He was the first and the last because they never had a Director of Medical Services again. This God, you cannot underrate Him. My prayer was that the person responsible should be put aside and that was exactly how it happened. He put himself aside because of the certificate issue. Why did Obasanjo embark on the certificate verification exercise, or why did the Toronto issue happen at that time? If it hadn’t happened, the delay would have continued as usual. Oba atori nkan sekan. So, God has given us so many great reasons to rejoice and to thank him.
When he left, another MD came and he said all the Directors should go on suspension. They were at home for about a year, but they were paid. Eventually, their appointments were terminated for no reason.
Just like that?
Yes, just like that. As of when their appointments were terminated, we didn’t have a house of our own. The one we had, we had sold to offset the loan we obtained from Wema Bank and Skye Bank then to build the school. So, one of the Skye Bank directors, Segun Oloketuyi heard in the news that all the directors had been retired. My husband had assisted him and the bank in the past to get a debt owed by FAAN paid.
He said, sorry about this, I heard this news, my husband said, well, no ill feelings but the only thing is that he didn’t have a house of his own to stay in. Then he asked, where do you want to live? So, we gave him a choice of GRA, Omole Phase One, and MKO Abiola Gardens. He said his friend wanted to sell his house and it’s the biggest house in the estate. That was how he connected us to his friend and we bought the house with the assistance of bank loans. It cost us N35m then.
So, what happened after his premature retirement?
Hmmm… I was saying to myself, is my husband going to be sitting at home doing nothing at this age? I said, no, this man has to do something. God then brought in contact with a friend of his who had started an HMO. He invited him to join him in running the HMO because he was struggling to cope, and he was owed many hospitals. He said he knew that my husband has integrity and a pedigree which would convince the hospitals to continue to work with his HMO.
My husband didn’t want to go, I said you go and try. If you go there and it doesn’t work, then you can always come back to your house. He said he had prepared an office in my school there. I said ok, you have an office, you want to be carrying briefcases all around the place? So, that was how he joined the HMO. God took control and my husband was able to stabilise the HMO and retain all the hospitals. The HMO ran successfully until they decided to sell it and cash out. Here we are today.
To God be the glory. Wonderful. I mean, your story, the story of Daddy too, quite motivating, quite inspiring. Like I said, we always gossip positively about you because this is a role model couple, that we all want to be like. We have to thank God for our life
One other thing that girls of these days should know is that when it comes to the issue of money, there should be no segregation. My money, my husband’s money, no, it’s our money. You spend and your husband spends. Whoever brings in the money shouldn’t be an issue because once you know that, if you die as the wife, the money belongs to your children and what belongs to your children belongs to your husband and vice versa.
So, why should you hoard money from your husband? Why should the husband hoard money from the wife? We started like that, not minding who brings in money. My husband can give me anything when I need it and vice versa. He will put money there, take whatever you want. If I put it there, take whatever you want. We spend, we buy and buy, all these things we are doing, the houses we have and all the furnishing is a joint effort
That’s the way it should be
Yea. That is the crux of most of the problems these days, the issue of finance. The wife will be building a house, and the husband will not be aware. That is wrong. You should do everything with your husband. Some women will say if I give him my money, he will give his relations, blah blah blah, what has that got to do with you? It doesn’t take anything out of what God wants to make of you. So, my dear, this is the journey so far.
Thank you for your time ma. It has been an exciting session. Once again, congratulations and many happy returns.
Thank you Demola. Iwo naa a dagba, amin. Thank you for all you do.
