I have been thinking that my marriage is a big mistake. I say that because, I have been telling myself for the past three years that we can work on our issues (my wife and me) that divorce is not an option because this is my second marriage.
However, I am mostly unhappy in my marriage and I have tried everything humanly possible to make things work but all to nothing. So, I was married to someone eight years ago. Then, she just graduated from school and we were young and very much in love. After six months of marriage, she got a dream job to work in an international oil firm in Dubai. The remuneration was very attractive and my wife eventually moved to Dubai.
The distance I thought put a strain on our relationship but I found out that she was cheating and I have never felt any kind of pain that I felt from that betrayal. In less than two years, I was divorced. I was hurt and projected that hurt to the women that I tried to date after my divorce.
That was how I met Rebecca(not real name). We both work in the same office complex but she works for another corporate body. From meeting at lunch and elevators, we started having s8x for almost seven months. She loved me but I was not ready to be tied down on a relationship so I told her she was free to leave if she wanted more.
Disappointed, she broke up with me but after one day of frustration at work, I showed up in her house and I just needed someone to be with me. From drinking we ended up having s8x. Because we were not really dating, I did not use protection and she claimed she forgot to use protection and she ended up being pregnant.
I was going to ask her to decide what to do with the baby cos I wanted to take responsibility if she decided to keep the baby. She had the baby. Our beautiful little princess was born and she looks every inch like me. I think she is one of my best decisions.
After three years, Rebecca got married to someone. I didn’t know how much I lost until she really married another man. I cut my losses and tried to move on. But when I met my wife, Daisy(not real name), I thought I was finally making the right decision. Daisy is a professor at a university and she inspires me with her achievements so far. What I did not bargain for was the fact that she was also going to be her own woman. Daisy is a feminist.
