I got married to a man with a kid but the kid was with the mother. Before I got married to him, I made enquiries and it was true that they divorced. The lady’s dad brought back the things that holds a marriage to the guys family that he doesn’t want him to be his inlaw again due to some problems between the guy and the lady. The lady also refused to come back to the marriage after several attempts by church leaders. She even went ahead and took confession with the priest and was taking communion.
I was then convinced that the guy was single and got married to him but I told that any day the lady will come back into the marriage, I will leave him that particular day. But he promised me it will never happen in front of my people and his people.
After the traditional wedding, I asked him to let us bless our marriage in a simple manner (after morning mass) and he said he will do but never did. I also decided to protect myself from becoming pregnant to observe as to the lady will come back to the marriage but she refused. I then decided to to become pregnant and and gave birth to a son. 6months after delivery, as we were preparing to bless our marriage, my husband went and impregnated his ex wife again and was to rediary her. The family stood against it but he hid and rediared the lady.
The pain was unbearable for me. The betrayal was too much for me as he told me how bad the lady was to him and his family. I decided to divorce him but he came pleading that it was a mistake and he did that just to be able to claim ownership of his first son with the lady. The family also intervened with pleadings and I also considered my son and was still in the marriage. Since 2019 till now, I never have peace in that marriage.
Initially I thought it was truly a mistake but the way things are going, it seems they planned it together.
Any time we get a little quarrel he just takes it high and switched to the other lady. All he now sees is that if I leave him, he will not lose anything.
I am in pain. There is no blessed day I will not share tears. I do think divorce is the best solution but when I do think that my son will be separated from me one day, it’s always hard for me to take that step. I am just deteriorating everyday. The more I try pulling myself together, the weaker I become. I don’t know what to do please I need your advice.
