- LOVING DISCIPLINE IS ESSENTIAL
Prov. 29 v 17
TPT
GNB
“Correct your child and one day you will find he has changed and will bring
you great delight.
“Discipline your children and you can always be proud of them, They will
never give you reason to be ashamed
NKJV
“Correct your son, and he will give you rest, Yes, he will give delight to your
soul.”
NLT
“Discipline your children and they will give you Peace of mind and will make
your heart glad” - CHILDREN MUST BE TRAINED AND GIVEN
INSTRUCTIONS
Prov. 22 v 6
NKJV
Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart
from it.”
NLT
2
“Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will
not leave it.”
GNB
TPT
“Teach children how they should live, and they will remember it all their life.”
“Dedicate your children to God and point them in the way that they should
go, and the values they’ve learned from you will be with them for life” - PARENTS MUST MAKE ADEQUATE PROVISION FOR
THEIR CHILDREN
1 Tim. 5 v 8
NKJV
“But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his
household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”
NirV
TPT
“Everyone should provide for their own relatives. Most of all, everyone should
take care of their own family. If they don’t, they have left the faith. They are
worse than someone who doesn’t believe.”
“For if a believer fails to provide for their own relatives when they are in need,
they have compromised their convictions of faith and need to be corrected, for
they are living worse than the unbelievers.” - CHILDREN NEED SPIRITUAL NUTURING
Ephesian 6 v 4
NLT
“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them.
Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the
Lord.”
GNB
3
“Parents, do not treat your children in such a way as to make them angry.
Instead, raise them with Christian discipline and instruction.”
GW
“Fathers, don’t make your children bitter about life. Instead, bring them up in
Christian discipline and instruction.” - CHILDREN MUST UNDERSTAND THAT ANYONE WHO
DOES NOT WANT TO WORK FOR A LIVING WILL GO
HUNGRY
2 Thess 3 v 10
NirV
TPT
“Even when we were with you, we gave you a rule. We said, “Anyone who
won’t work shouldn’t be allowed to eat.”
“For when we were with you we instructed you with these words: ‘Anyone
who does not want to work for a living should go hungry”
NKJV
“For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: If anyone will not
work, neither shall he eat.”
HOW TO STIMULATE CONSTRUCTIVE PRESSURE - LET THE COMFORT GIVEN TO THE CHILDREN BE
CONTROLLED
2 Thess 3 v 10
“For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: If anyone
will not work, neither shall he eat.”
- Give them basic comfort.
- Withdraw excess comfort
- Excess comfort can breed complacency and entitlement.
- Reduce unnecessary gifts and allowances.
4 - Stop paying for non-essentials and unnecessary things.
- Put a limit on their entertainment privileges.
- Don’t fund their laziness.
- Don’t fund their unproductive lifestyle.
- Let them feel the natural result of inactivity & disobedience
- ASSIGN CLEAR RESPONSIBILITIES
Eccl. 9 v 10
“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; for there is no work
or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave where you are going.”
- Get them engaged robustly.
- Make available House chores schedule.
- Get them involved in family business
- Let them learn trades and skills.
- Let these expectations be measurable clearly.
- INTRODUCE ACCOUNTABILITY SYSTEMS
Proverbs 20 v 18
NLT
“Plans succeed through good counsel; don’t go to war without wise advice.”
NKJV
“Plans are established by counsel; By wise counsel wage war.”
- Make them to be accountable
- Let them know about the consequences for compliance and non-compliance.
- Give them timelines attached to various tasks.
5 - Hammer the importance of timelines.
- Teach them to avoid Deadline panics.
- Teach them to write their goals and make reviews.
- Making check listing is so important.
- EXPOSE THEM TO REAL-LIFE CONSEQUENCES
Proverbs 13 v 2
“A man shall eat well by the fruit of his mouth, But the soul of the unfaithful
feeds on violence.”
- Over sheltering delays maturity.
- Assume you are not there for reliance.
- Allow them to handle their own bills.
- Allow them to solve personal challenges/problems.
- CONNECT THEM WITH MENTORS
Proverbs 11 v 4
“Riches do not profit in the day of wrath, But righteousness delivers from
death.”
- Outside parental voices, another voice penetrates deeper realistically.
- Connect them with a coach, a mentor, a trauma expert, a successful tradesman.
- TIE PRIVILEGES TO PRODUCTIVITY
Prov. 13 v 14
6
“The law of the wise is a fountain of life, To turn one away from the snares of
death.”
- Let them know that no productivity, no rewards, no privileges.
- Control car use
- Internet access.
- ENCOURAGE THEM TO DISCOVER PURPOSE
Proverb 29 v 18
“Where there is no [d]revelation, the people cast off restraint; But happy is he
who keeps the law.”
- A lazy child will suffer from low self worth, fear, confusion, Lack of confidence etc..
- Probe them:
a) What excites them
b) What they are good at
c) What they want to become in future. - Give them every needed channel for development
- Pray for them.
- BE A ROLE MODEL TO THEM
1 Cor. 11 v 1
“Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ.”
- Let them see
- Your commitment to God, godly values
7 - Your civility
- Your Discipline
- Your ethical work
- Your consistency
- Your pursuit of growth and development
- Your family life style.
- APPLY FIRM LOVE AND NOT SOFT PITY
Hebrews 12 v 6
“For whom the Lord loves He chastens, And scourges every son whom He
receives.”
- To love them without firmness will produce weakness.
- To be firm without love produces rebellion and anger in them.
- There must be a good balance.
- They need a mindset shift.
- They need a mental wake up.
- They need a reality check.
- They need to imbibe core values for maturity.
10.STRATEGIC PRAYER FOR THEM
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Phil. 2 v 13
“For it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure.” - For God to encounter them personally.
- For them to have a deep spiritual awakening, conviction and hunger for growth.
- For God to secure their future.
- For them to be deeply rooted in God and the things of God.
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