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When he got home he started abusing me that I have gossiped about him to my friend , and God is my witness I did not tell her any thing, saying maybe am the one fueling the car.When I started working ,I was taught how to drive and started taking my kids to school ,since they are now in the school I am working. I nearly developed high Blood pressure because of the car ,every morning when cleaning the car he must not see a scratch on it ,he will abuse me till the end of that day.My husband will call me to analyze how am spending my money . Despite the fact that he’s not giving me anything, gradually it became part of me.My husband is the hostile type that does not want anybody in our house even his cousin and mine ,he will talk to them anyhow.He will be saying in their presence that he cannot use his money to feed people anyhow . There was a time I was crying in my room that one of his cousin walked up to me console me and asked me that ” why did you even marry my uncle ” that she has been pondering over it for so long that I should not be offended but because she feels my pain.Every time the comes around because she was schooling where my husband works .He will beat me up at any opportunity and also abuse me in the presence of anybody including my children , I will enter my room and cry.He does not allow me to sleep in the same bed with him ,even when I forced that . My body must not touch him even by mistake he will move his body away, he makes love to me when it pleases him.My husband can nag from now till tomorrow , he’s hostile ,he’s aggressive ,he’s not loving and caring is not in his dictionary at all, he keeps saying he will send me home to my parents ,sees himself as my god. Telling me there is nothing anybody can do for him .Despite all these , I remain a loyal n faithful wife.
Until one day ,I was having problem with my banking app and I needed to send money to my junior brother because it’s festive period and I told my husband to help me with the transaction that I will give him the cash .My husband refused that the bank will deduct #50 from his bank account . That day I decided to change and plan my life .I started learning tailoring on line as God will have it someone told me she wanted to sell a sowing machine and I showed interest in buying and pleaded with her that I can only pay twice she agreed and I bought the machine .
To crown it all a colleague at work is also a fashion designer anytime am about cutting any dress I will approach her and she will not hesitate within 2 months I started cutting and sowing all by myself. He never asked me how I was able to pay up for the machine.I started buying materials and sowing for myself and my girls . I stop bothering about him and focused on my kids and myself. I stopped caring for him and withdrew all my attention toward him including cleaning the house.There was this day I drove his car to the market just because it was raining and I need to get something urgent , immediately I parked the car , I saw him , there is no way I can go to the front or back he will see his car , I now parked the car and hide my self by the side of the car so that he can go without seeing me even if he should see his car because people in that place will pity me that day .Immediately he saw his car he parked the one his driving and walked to where I parked and started calling me ,I did not pick ,me that I sneaked from his presence that day I saw hell when I get home.This makes me hate him the more ,I became wild toward him ,I neglected and hardly talk to him ,even when making love I will not participate , my love for him has reduced drastically and I started looking good ,me that most men are running after me because of my beauty , to be candid am so much endowed and my husband does not see me as anything .I will not call him ,even if he traveled for a week ,I hardly talk to him ,I will only greet him and asked him what will you eat. I totally neglected him. It continued till early December , he started worrying that I no longer participate during s*x ,I told him I don’t feel like it anymore.That led him to a counselor , he explained to him my behavior and the councilor gave him 3 point that might be responsible for my actions and one happened to be that he should go and change his way . He came home ,he begged that he will change that I should give him another chance I said ok. I tried to change although it was very difficult for me because I have been wronged by him in many ways .We traveled for December .When came back in January ,he started he’s drama again ,my cousin that is staying with me came back from home ,he greeted my husband he did not answer . Although he has told me that the lady did not call since she left for home and I called her and asked her why and directed her to call him , which she did and my husband did not pick.The next morning ,my cousin called me and told me that my husband has locked all the doors including the windows in the house and left her inside closing both gates ,windows and doors . When I got home ,I asked him and he started his abuse again ,he nearly beat me up that day again. Saying it is because am ok in his house that I invited my cousin.
During this lock down ,my first daughter of 13 years ran away from home ,we were able to find her . Her father nearly beat her to death ,It was then she started saying , she hate her daddy ,that he never show them love and care ,that she’s not even sure he’s their father ,that she’s tired of staying in this cage called house , I was amazed at her utterance .It was then I realized the kids too are not happy, immediately the eldest said…
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