Nigerian Men Are in Serious Trouble, By Mogaji Wole Arisekola

Dear married women,

I strongly believe that it is only by the divine grace of God that a man can remain faithful to his wife.

What I saw at a party yesterday , and what I have been seeing on social media lately, shows that Nigerian women have gone to the beauty market and returned with different heart-stopping shapes.

What type of shape are you looking for? Jennifer Lopez? Name it, they have it.

Owambe parties are gradually turning into beauty parades.

An elderly woman who sat beside me was so carried away that she exclaimed, “Uncle, where are these ladies from? Haa! Na God go protect una. Even me, as a woman, I’m tempted. You men are very disciplined.”

I replied, “Madam, it is simply the grace of Almighty God.”

Nigerian women are among the most beautiful in the world. They go the extra mile to maintain their looks and figures.

It takes a lot of effort to look good and stay in shape.

She responded, “Uncle, I bow. You men must be from another planet.”

No wonder the Ooni of Ife, to avoid fornication, married six of them.

I said, “Madam, if King Wasiu Ayinde Marshal were not a disciplined man, he would have married more than eighty women. Can’t you see the way women flock around him on stage?”

It is very difficult, if not impossible, for a man to withstand the onslaught of these beautiful women in our society.

And most of them know exactly what they want.

Many are working-class ladies, especially those in the banking sector and federal parastatals.

However, some of them seek additional income from other sources.

The most determined among them are often single mothers and women with heavy responsibilities.

They are left to shoulder the responsibilities of two people because of the failures or absence of their partners.

But before any man decides to abandon his senses and chase beauty with reckless abandon, let me offer a word of caution.

The glossy cover of “Married to Money” can be very deceptive. Once you flip that attractive cover, you may discover the other side of midnight. Trust me on this one.

Many men see the designer bags, luxury cars, expensive perfumes, and social media glamour and assume they have found paradise on earth. What they fail to realize is that every beautiful story has chapters that are not displayed on the cover page.

There are many chapters ahead for a man who marries the money. Some of those chapters contain pressure, expectations, emotional demands, competition, and responsibilities that were never advertised during the courtship stage.

The same beauty that attracts attention may also attract jealousy, suspicion, and endless battles for reassurance. The same wealth that appears attractive from a distance may come with conditions, obligations, and a lifestyle that not every man is prepared to handle.

That is why wisdom must always accompany admiration. Beauty is wonderful, and financial success is a blessing, but character, peace of mind, loyalty, understanding, and mutual respect remain the true foundations of a successful marriage.

At the end of the day, every man must pray for wisdom, self-control, and divine guidance. Beauty may open the door, but good character is what keeps the home standing.

May God continue to guide and protect us all.This addition strengthens the ending by balancing the humor with a thoughtful reflection on marriage, beauty, wealth, and character.

Mogaji Wole Arisekola writes from Ibadan